Volunteering isn’t the answer for everyone
Volunteering is one of the most commonly recommended paths for finding purpose in retirement. And for many people, it can be deeply fulfilling — a way to stay connected, give back, and maintain structure in daily life. But here’s something we don’t talk about enough:
Volunteering isn’t the right answer for everyone. And that’s okay.
Some people hesitate to admit this. It can feel like you’re going against the grain — like you’re supposed to want to volunteer, and if you don’t, something must be wrong with you. But the truth is, there are lots of valid reasons why volunteering might not be a great fit for your life in retirement.
Sometimes, it’s logistical. Maybe you have a health condition that limits your energy. Maybe transportation is a challenge, or you’ve taken on unexpected responsibilities at home. Or maybe the roles available just don’t match your personality or interests. A greeter at the local charity shop? Not your style. Serving on a board? Too formal. Helping out at a community event? It depends on the crowd.
Other times, the hesitation is more emotional. After decades of structured work, retirement is a time to finally exhale — to enjoy freedom and rest. The idea of signing up for another set of obligations, even unpaid ones, just doesn’t appeal. And that doesn’t mean you’re selfish. It means you’re human.
There’s also a broader shift happening. The idea that volunteering is the only or most noble way to spend your time in retirement is outdated. Purpose can look like many different things — and often, it’s about where you feel most energized and aligned.
Here are a few alternative ways to find meaning and connection:
Mentoring informally: Share your wisdom with a neighbour’s teenager, help a younger family member navigate a job search, or offer guidance to a friend’s daughter applying to university. These small acts can make a big difference.
Creating something of your own: Write a memoir or a blog, start painting again, record stories for your grandkids, or plant a garden. Making something new can be incredibly grounding and fulfilling.
Supporting others behind the scenes: You don’t need a formal role to make a difference. Cook meals for a grieving friend. Offer rides to a neighbour going through medical treatments. Listen — really listen — when someone needs to talk.
Building community in small ways: Start a walking group, organize a book club, or invite neighbours for a casual coffee. You might be surprised how many people are also looking to connect.
Prioritizing your own growth: Take classes, learn a new skill, explore your city, or simply embrace rest. There’s no rule that says retirement has to be productive in a traditional sense.
And yes, if volunteering truly lights you up, explore it. There are thousands of opportunities out there, from micro-volunteering online to hands-on roles in your local community. But if it doesn’t feel right — if it drains you, stresses you out, or just doesn’t fit your life right now — that’s okay too.
You’re not falling short. You’re making a thoughtful choice about what’s best for you.
There’s no one-size-fits-all version of a purposeful retirement. What matters is that it feels fulfilling to you.